Unexplained Peace

journeyAll is right. In this perfect present moment, everything is exactly how it should be. I’m totally one in this present moment and everything is right. How can that be when the world isn’t perfect? Nor did I have the perfect day. Far from it. How can I be so ‘present’ when emotionally I was so all over the place today? I was pissed, angry, tired, depressed, frustrated, disappointed, and panicked. Lots went wrong today. But here I am, in this present moment, and everything is right in the world.

Maybe because I’m choosing to see the world in that way. I’m choosing to see the beautiful. I’m choosing to feel the zen. I’m not manic, I’m not overly positive. I’m just here. Just being. I see the beauty in myself, in the world, in the work of others, and the beauty of mistakes. But I also see the disappointment, misunderstandings, greed, and failures. It makes us who we are. Neither are bringing out any emotions in me right now. I’m just an observer.

Things went wrong today. It was actually kind of a shitty day. An hour ago I had plenty to write about. Now, I feel like my mind is blank…in a good way, so I’m just trying to explain this feeling.

I felt so overwhelmed, pissed, sad, panicked, angry, disappointed, blindsided, and then now… nothing. Not numb, at least not in a bad way. I’m not depressed, or manic. This doesn’t happen often. I’m usually on one side of the spectrum, especially lately. It’s kind I’m just here in this physical body. My soul is here, at peace, in my physical body using it to harbor a calm soul. It’s a feeling I haven’t felt in months, and I guess it just took me by surprise.

flowersThis is the mood where I just go outside and stare up into the sky and observe. I watch everything. It’s like I find a deep meaning in everything, and in nothing. Material things don’t matter. Physical bodies are just there to support the spirit. Emotions are not present. Physical looks, products, money, materials and possessions cease to matter in this state of mind. All that matters is the soul. Politics and corporate drama are non important. Conflict between friends seems to fade away. All that’s left is the spirit, the soul, and a higher purposes. It has been a very, very long time since I’ve felt this feeling of what I call ‘ultimate peace’.

I was feeling vulnerable and very strong emotions of being scared of death earlier in the day. I felt like I was dying. I was literally thinking I was going to die. This time, I panicked in the water, and I felt like the ability to breathe was also taken away from me. In this present moment, fear is gone. I thought of loss of life, and all my loved ones living on without me. For some reason, right now the fear of death is gone. If I were to shed my physical body in this moment, I feel like my soul would be free, and I would be at peace with it. This is not a depressed feeling, or suicidal thoughts flooding my conscious. This is not me wishing for death. There is nothing negative about what I’m feeling. It’s like everything is quiet with me. My conscious and subconscious are on the same plane of existence and I’m feeling one in myself.

It’s like this feeling has also shed emotions because they don’t exist in this state of mind. Maybe I’m dreaming while I’m awake? Because the only time I can remember I have felt this is when I have woken up from a very good dream (also rare when that happens).

No idea what triggered this feeling, and also it doesn’t matter. I don’t care to figure it out because it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter where this feeling came from because it doesn’t exist in this state of mind. Whatever it is, I feel like I want to preserve it. The ultimate peace is learning to be. Have I somehow figured out how to do that? I’ve been trying for years. Yet, in this moment, it hit me. Just now. Very strange, but I’m ok with it. I would love to feel this at peace all the time.

What Is Love?

soulbeautyI love everyone. Every single person I come in contact with is loved by me in some way. I choose to see the good in people. I choose to see beauty, and I see that everywhere I go. I see that in the mountains outside my house, the stars in the sky at night, in the personality of my dogs, and in the mechanics of my car. I choose to see beauty in absolutely everything. In people, I see their physical looks of course, but more importantly, I feel I can see the beauty of their soul. I start talking to people, and in just a few seconds of meeting them, I see them radiate their own special aura of beauty. I see their personality shine through when they speak, smile, work with their dog or interact with their family. And to me, every person is incredible and beautiful in their own unique way.

In the people closest to me; my friends and family and my clients, I have a very special opportunity to get to know them a little better. And in doing so, I get to know what makes them tick a little closer. I get to know their strengths, their weaknesses, and their fears. In working with my clients’ dogs, I build a sort of very personal relationship, and I do see habits and personalities that some of their closest friends don’t even notice. And I love this part of my job. I can help people with those weaknesses and build confidence, which is empowering to them. I see it and it brings me joy when the concepts click and they are proud of themselves. That is one of my very favorite parts about my job. That’s one of things that makes me tick.

With some of my clients, I become friends with them. I start to care about their families and what they are doing on a daily basis with their dogs. More so than just on a professional level. I try very hard to make sure boundaries don’t get crossed. Just like a therapist and their patient, it’s important to not encroach on their patients’ personal lives. I have met some of my very best friends through my career, but it’s always friend or dog trainer in those moments. I go into a zone on either one. This has taken some practice on how to “turn off” either side.

I am a transparent person. I never lie (I’m not very good at it anyway), and I expect the same from my clients and the people in my life. When I am lied to, it deeply damages my soul, and my ability to see the beauty in people. I have been lied to, betrayed, hurt, and broken in the darkest of ways. Repeatedly. So, my soul isn’t as beautiful as it used to be. It has pockmarks and scars throughout. Once again, I feel as if my soul is dark and twisty and broken.

I’m looking past the scars and sometimes gaping wounds of my clients when they come to me for help with their dogs, so I’m trying to look past my own. I won’t hide, I won’t retreat. I’ll just keep going and give the wounds time to heal. The wounds that other people keep inflicting on me. I protect myself, but eventually I get tired, and let my guard down. Then I get clubbed with ugliness and evil. I always get up, but I take on these new battle scars each time.

Regardless of my battle scars, I will never stop loving deeply, or seeing the beauty in every person I meet. No one can take this from me. I will always get up eventually. And no one else is in charge of my feelings but me. I choose to be happy, I choose to be in control of my emotions and my state of mind.

Sometimes, in helping another person through some of their problems, I heal a little bit of me. Sometimes, being broken in company is the best kind of remedy. I helped someone release a little bit of emotion today. And it made me see how absolutely beautiful they were. A little later in the same day, she was there for me when I needed to be healed. I’m hoping it did the same to her, as it did to me.

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Today, I faced one of my biggest fears. I haven’t been inside of a church willingly in over 10 years. Walking up to the doors of the church took me 2 tries. I stalled and answered a phone call first, and then took some deep breaths, accepted it was going to hurt… and then let it go and moved on. And I walked in. I got a little nervous again walking down a long, narrow hallway with closed doors on either side. I felt very claustrophobic, but I kept walking. I just focused on my breathing, and how this is for a good cause. I needed to do this. I got to the end of the hallway and reached my destination. I felt a huge sense of accomplishment for just a few seconds. And then I realized where I was.

I was attending a client’s funeral. I was invited to attend this intimate event and robinjablonmourn the loss of this client with her family and friends. She was an incredibly beautiful person, and the way I remember her, she was always smiling and had a warm, inviting presence. She was there for me in my own time of loss, and was incredibly supportive. Nothing but loving energy from her, telling me everything will be ok, and that I’ll become stronger from my trials. She said she would pray for me, and that I deserve all the happiness in the world. I truly believe she meant that when she told me that, and I felt a sense of peace.

I helped her with her dog for about a year previously, but as she started to get sicker and sicker, her dog sensed that and became more and more possessive. I didn’t put together the dots on this until later, so we did more sessions, and I helped her with confidence and leadership building, but we weren’t making much progress. It was shortly after our last session that she was diagnosed with brain cancer. It was around midnight in early December that she messages me on my business page. She said she had a brain tumor and was losing her vision, and was so scared of death. She didn’t know what to do, but she felt like she wanted to reach out to me, that we had a connection and she wanted to tell me. I felt deep sadness for her, and I wish I could have teleported to where she was to hold her and give her the type of energy she gave me in my time of need.

I wanted to remember this client as the beautiful soul she was, so I didn’t want to see her in the open casket. I could still see her face, and the top of her head. And even though I didn’t go up to see her closely, she was radiant. She was beautiful, even while sleeping eternally. And she was loved deeply. Everyone had such wonderful things to say about her, and it made me think about her husband and her family a lot. They had such touching words to share about him as well. “Her boys were her greatest accomplishments”, “Her family was the best gift she could ever receive in this life”, “She loved her family with all her heart”… And then the things they were saying about her husband. “He gave her the life she always wanted, and she lived it to her fullest”, “He was the perfect husband”, “Not once did I ever hear her complain about him, or say you two had an argument”, “You were her best friend and treated her with such kindness”, “Billy, you were her guardian angel. She always did like the thrill rides and did scary things at 59 like white water rapids”, “Billy, she’s waiting for you in Heaven”. I’m not religious, but these words got me more than anything else said. I am very spiritual, and when I die, I hope someone is saying those things to my partner. Life is too short and precious. I want my life to be filled with beauty and love. This was a bittersweet reminder of what I have been missing.

It also got me thinking to what I would do if I suddenly died. What’s most important to me, and who? Who deserves to make decisions for me in death? What type of service do I want? Let’s be clear. I don’t want to be buried in an expensive box. I want to go back to the Earth. Let me decompose and be born again into a tree. I want to be part of the beauty that is this world. I want my friends and family to bring their dogs to my service. I don’t want sad music or churches. I want to have a gathering of everyone I love (which, as I said…is everyone) come and talk about silly, funny, happy stories about my life. Tears are fine, but I want people to be more happy than mourning. I want my dogs to be taken care of by people who love them as deeply as I do. I want my business to be sold to someone who has a passion for training and teaching, or be shut down and have the money go towards my friends and family who have helped me get to where I am (“am” meaning at my time of death).

So, to conclude this very long blog post, I am choosing to be happy. I am in charge of my life and how I feel. I choose to see beauty in everyone. I hope that this blog post finds everyone healthy and happy, and if not, choose to see the beauty in the world. It won’t show itself to you unless you are receptive enough to pay attention. Be mindful of the world and its’ energies and make it a better place. CHOOSE to be happy. CHOOSE to see beauty. Only you can make this happen for yourself.  Be the change you wish to see in the world. Those words were never as clear to me as they are now. It’s like I’m hearing them for the first time.

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